Do You Really Need To Outsource Your Happiness? Why Are You Outsourcing Your Happiness? 

Do you know why maximum people can’t be happy by  themselves? 

This is the toughest challenge humanity is facing today. The  whole world appears to be confused about the nature of  happiness and where to look for it. 

We look forward to our immediate family members including  spouse, friends, colleagues, and even our own boss to make us  happy.  

The danger of outsourcing our happiness lies in delayed delivery,  misspelled label like “unhappiness” instead of happiness. Most of  those deliveries have another common problem: Return Address  not provided. 

While happiness and unhappiness could be influenced by  external forces but the true joy that you feel internally may not be  influenced by external forces. You have to find it by yourself. 

Next time instead of eating a sumptuous lunch, give it to another  hungry person who has not eaten for several days, and feel the inner joy of making him happy. This is not temporary. 

There is a Fountain of Lasting Happiness. It is called the Practice  of Gratitude! When you practice gratitude, you always find inner  joy. 

If you are truly looking for lasting happiness which is called inner  joy, look no further. Practice gratitude and find your own Fountain  of Happiness!

Do You Love Yourself Enough? 

Lord Jesus Christ commanded us to, “love thy neighbor as  thyself!”  

We put emphasis on, “thy neighbor” and forget the most important  part, “thyself.”  

There is a spiritual meaning behind this commandment. You have  to soak yourself with self-love. Self-love does not mean that you  are going to the extreme to be a narcissist.  

You appreciate, respect, and understand yourself and are  compassionate and kind to yourself. All these qualities you must cultivate within you before you can pass it on to your neighbor. 

If you want to love your neighbors, you have to have the different  aspects of love in you before you can give it out.  

Ask these questions: Do I respect myself? Do I appreciate  myself? Do I care about my body and my mind? Do I give myself  a pat on the back at times? 

If you think you do not love yourself enough, there is a simple  practice you can start to love yourself adequately: you can start  practicing gratitude! 

Gratitude opens immense possibilities to maximize your potential.  If you can practice this one commandment Lord Jesus prescribed  for mankind, you need not to go to any place of worship anymore! 

The question is WILL YOU DO IT?  

Will you at least try to practice it in everyday life?

Do You Want to Reverse Your Habits? 

Any psychiatrist will attest to the fact that it is quite difficult to get  our brain out of an addiction.  

When you keep expressing anger, fear, grief, jealousy, and rage your brain creates new neurons, and you get addicted to those  negative habits based on the science of neuroplasticity.  

Every time you get angry, you are programming the brain and the  body gets addicted to it, and you become a victim of your own  thoughts, speech and actions. 

But there is a simple and very effective way to reverse those  harmful negative habits if you are serious about reversing them.  

It is nothing other than the practice of gratitude.  

Gratitude erases the negative tendencies that converge to form  negative emotions. 

When you practice gratitude, you are counting your blessings,  and you anchor your mind to the Power of Now. Ultimately you  are not reacting or reliving the past experience and your tendency  to fly into the future to embrace imaginary fears will be drastically  diminished.

Do not expect miracles in the first few weeks as you have these  negative emotions embedded in the bottom plate of your  subconscious mind. But practice it regularly for at least 90 days,  and then you can see the changes taking place in you.  

Practice gratitude to remove the negative habits formed in you.  Try it and you will immensely benefit from the practice!

The Root of Unhappiness 

The whole world wants to hear new secrets of happiness!  Happiness is sold like snake oil in the global happiness markets.  

People are still unhappy. So I decided to examine the root cause  of unhappiness that we need to reduce, if not totally eliminate. 

In order to reach the source of unhappiness, I wanted to identify  the markers of unhappiness. 

There are three fundamental markers of unhappiness! They are  negative thoughts, negative speech, and negative action.  

If you are thinking negatively, speaking negatively, and acting  negatively, it is absurd to think that you will get positive outcomes  and positive emotions.  

You must remind yourself that if you want to be happy but you keep making others unhappy then it is simply impossible. 

First of all think happy, speak happy, and act happy to be happy!

There is a simple practice you can start to avoid the secret of  unhappiness. It is called the Practice of Gratitude!  

Gratitude is the giver of contentment, as it anchors you to the  present. In the present there is only joy because you are  experiencing it. Only the present is real and therefore it is called  eternal.  

Unhappiness will not haunt you in the present. Start living in the  present, and say good bye to the painful past, and the imaginary  future who are the parents of unhappiness!

How to Get Out of a Bad Mood? 

Almost all of us find ourselves in a bad mood sometime or the  other! It happens when you least expect it.  

When it happens take the following steps: 

1. Immediately change the scene. If you are in the kitchen  move to the living room or dining area. Shifting place is very  effective to change your mood. 
2. Go to the bathroom and splash cold water onto your face at  least three times. It will activate your Vagus nerve, the  healing nerve in the body. 
3. Take a piece of paper and write down three things for which  you are grateful to your mother. At this time mother is the  best person to feel thankful for. 
4. If none of these works (which I doubt) take a hot and cold  shower. 

You cannot look for a fire extinguisher when the house is on fire.  You will keep it ready in the house in a corner just in case. 

The same way with these techniques, keep them handy to get out  of a bad mood who appears in our mind as a creep when we least  expect it!